The collective-selective abandonment

images2If there is one question everyone in humanity agrees upon is that we all wish to help our neighbor in one way or another.

Most of the time, the arguments to justify this humanitarian and detached action could be valid, sincere, and even truthful of why they want to do it. Some not only do it for their material detachment, but because they live intensely with that divine connection.

On the other hand, there are those who make big donations simply so that society identifies them as philanthropists, detached, humanitarians, without even seeing that they do it, only to receive the financial benefits it brings.

We want to make clear that when expressing this reality about some, it is by no means a way of criticizing those who, by greed, use the cause of the needy to get richer, since those who do it with that purpose at least are indirectly helping others who need it and are in within their right.

imagesOthers choose that life of volunteering as an excuse to disconnect from their reality, from their duties, of looking themselves in the mirror of their reflection, since it is easier to focus on others instead of focusing on their lives.

Their lives are filled with incongruences, in some cases; these people go out of their way to help others, while their families are suffering or in need.

Even though their time tends to be committed with everyone else’s wellbeing, their health is broken, their finances are a disaster and their interpersonal relations are null. These people tend to take care of everyone around them and forgive everything related to them.

There is no correct way of serving others. A lot will depend where you are in the world, but each person does what they understand is best, as best they can, and in many cases, in order to have something on their resume when they reach the celestial court.

But what if before tending to others, or serving them, giving our neighbors, we start by taking care of ourselves?

Let’s first understand the meaning of the word … it has several meanings, among them: fill a space or time, dedicate your attention to something, empower yourself, work, dedicate yourself and perform.

Each one of these meanings has a common denominator – that there is a concrete action, a determination to act, to do something different.

What if we stop saving the world and take time to observe ourselves, in detail, to feel who we are, to understand our needs, to know where our feelings originate, what is the root of our existence, to understand our relationships and, above all, how we can live in our present?

What if we take the time to stop seeing us in other people’s mirrors and do auto evaluations exercise?

What if, for a couple of minutes, we forget about the world and start taking care of ourselves?

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